Where Does Homosexuality Come From?

I’ve been “jerminating” on homosexuality lately…

I don’t believe it’s a simple choice, as many Christians want to believe. That would make it too neat and tidy – a tight category of sin that’s easy to be against and preach against – the “Just Say No” types. No, it’s more complex than that – as most things are. Here are some thoughts (and these are by no means exhaustive or exclusive). I should also point out – especially if you’ve wandered to this blog through Google or something and don’t know me personally – that I do not claim to be an authority on anything, nor is this site connected to any specific organization. I’m just a guy with a free WordPress blog typing my thoughts and trying to figure some things out. This is kind of my public journal.

So where does it come from? Here are a few ideas.

  1. Genetics. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to think that some people are born with a predisposition towards homosexuality. The human genome has proven to be capable of incredible variety in terms of appearance attributes, skill sets, mental aptitude, athletic ability, environmental tolerance, and more. I think it’s at least possible that some people are born with a gay predisposition. Does that mean it will always play out that way? No. We all know the age-old argument of Nature vs Nurture and it applies here, too. A predisposition doesn’t mean it will go that way 100% of the time. It just means there might be a genetic slant that exists.
  2. Chemistry. I believe there is something to this thing called brain chemistry. Some people are bi-polar, and it causes them to struggle with certain behaviors. Some are clinically depressed. Some are manic. Some are schizophrenic. Each of these brain chemistry disorders causes people to exhibit certain behaviors. Why could a tendency towards homosexuality not be chemistry related? Many who practice homosexuality do not like this explanation because it suggests that there is something wrong with them that needs to be fixed. They view homosexuality as an alternate norm. I understand that – and I sympathize with that viewpoint. But I still think a chemical factor is a possibility.
  3. Sexualizing An Underlying Need. Broken people (as we all are under Christian teaching), and especially those who are not far along in their spiritual journey, will sometimes sexualize an underlying and legitimate need. This is what happened to me with pornography. Pornography was an activity I engaged in which attempted to meet an emotional need I had – one of nurture, security, and acceptance – let’s just call it intimacy. So I settled for counterfeit intimacy (porn) as a temporary fix for my emotional need (which I repeat – was legitimate). But my need wasn’t sexual – it was emotional. Over the years, I had learned to sexualize my emotional need. It took time, knowledge, the support of others, and emotional healing to stop my cycle of sexualization. Would this type of thing not also explain some homosexual activity?
  4. Sin. Plain and simple. Some people are determined to learn where the boundaries are so they can bust through them. This is a form of idolatry – “I know better than you, God.”. So they force God from the throne, determined to sit in it themselves and call their own shots.
  5. Demonic influence. Yes, I said it. Yes, I believe it. There are forces in this world beyond the natural. They can affect our behavior if we allow them to get a stronghold in our lives. The good news is that Jesus wants to free us from them.

Now, because I have said the above things – many of you will make assumptions about me, so I feel the need to write the following.

A word to Homosexuals: First off, I want you to know that God does not hate you. He loves everyone unconditionally – regardless of their choices. Second, I want to apologize to you for the way most Christians have mistreated you. In the Bible, it is clear that the original intention of churches were for them to be a hospital for the sick (ie: everyone), not a social club for the well (ie: superficial Christians who think there’s nothing wrong with them). Third, I want you to know that if you were sitting in a room with me, the one thing I would want you to understand is that your sin is absolutely no different from mine. Just because I go to church every week, have Christian friends, and live a mostly Christian life does not mean that I am different from you. I still sin. I have lustful thoughts sometimes. I objectify women sometimes. And although I have largely overcome my addiction to pornography, it still leaves scars – on my heart, in my marriage, in my relationships with others. The difference is – and this is key for you to understand – is that I have Jesus to go through the ups and downs of life with me. He does not remove my temptations for me. He does not snap his fingers and life is all better (as some TV evangelists teach). But he promises to never leave me or nor forsake me – He is always with me. Jesus wants to be with you in your life, too.

A word to Christians: My dear friends – you must STOP IT. Stop treating homosexual like lepers. Stop putting yourself in God’s judgement throne. Stop protesting. Stop discriminating. Stop pointing out the speck in someone else’s eye when there is a plank in yours! As Christ-followers we are told to LOVE people. To demonstrate the love of Christ to people. To be the hands and feet of Jesus to the world. To be the most awesome force for embracing and caring for hurting people the world has ever known. WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE YOU DOING? What you are doing is not love…it is not patient or kind… and it is certainly boastful and proud. I’ve got a message for you – Jesus wants you to stop it. He wants you to throw down your picket sign, fall to your knees and realign your heart with His through confession and repentance, and then to stand up and reflect God’s love and grace to others. ALL others.

If you’re interested in more of my thoughts on homosexuality, you can check out a recent post I wrote on Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.

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4 Comments on “Where Does Homosexuality Come From?”

  1. kylee Says:

    I’m having a difficult time following you when you suggest homosexuality could could be due to brain chemistry OR sin or demonic influence. Homosexuality occurs in nature, in beings not capable of our level of thinking.

    I don’t understand this about christianity: a person is born gay naturally, and this could be caused by evil demons. A person is born without a face, and people say that god used this person to teach us all something magical about life. Both are naturally occurring variables, but because certain people don’t like one of them because it offends them from years of being told to hate it, it gets turned into something awful.

    That being said, I do appreciate what you say here, especially that you aren’t encouraging christians to go out and be friends with gay people just because they’re gay. A lot of christian people try to say this, and many of them mean well but their phrasing comes off as “we’ll save you from teh ghey!”

    Simply put, homosexuality SHOULD be a nonissue.

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  3. John C Says:

    I have a very good Christian friend – a man who’s been in ministry 30 plus years who I respect enormously – and his older brother was a homosexual who died of Aids in New York. He was a very talented professional graphic artist, great guy from what I know of him. My friend of course struggled early on with his Christian beliefs and the typical Christian view of homosexuality many years ago vs. his brother’s sexuality and how to reconcile that. And he loved his brother dearly. He became pretty convinced however after many conversations with his brother that it was NEVER a “choice” for him – and it seems we hear this over and over these days. His brother told him very honestly that from his earliest childhood recollections he ever had – that he always felt he was different. From his earliest memories he remembered being attracted to men, in as much the same way that my friend, his brother, was always attracted to women. He’d say “It’s as absolutely repulsive to me to think about women sexually as it probably is for you to think about men sexually.” And he’d tell him that there was no way he’d ever “choose” to be gay – why in the world would he with all he had to endure because of his sexuality? But this was how he had been his entire life and he knew no other way to be. I’ve always tried to keep an open mind to it all I guess. I know this whole debate is so controversial. And I’ll admit I’m still taken back when I see wedding announcements for gay couples in the newspaper (it’s legal here in Iowa.) And I wonder what it is within me that still makes me feel it’s kinda gross or different. I wish I didn’t feel that way, but I admit I do. Then again, I have gay friends and acquaintances that I really like a lot. Being an artist and a creative type, and a guy who while I have the large body of a football player, I was never into sports at all or good at sports, I have to say in many ways I’ve found I relate and have traits many gay men have. (I’m more prone to be the decorator in our house than my wife!) However I know for sure I’m not gay, nor could I ever make or want to make a choice to be gay. I’m not saying that as a cut down, just saying that I know what I am and am not. I’ve never had one attraction to a guy what so ever, and rather, very strong attractions to women. I guess I agree with the comments above – that it really should be a non-issue in this day and age. It’s just so not for us to judge or try to “fix” or “save.” I’m not sure what this means in relation to what all scripture does or doesn’t say on the subject. But from what I understand of real life experiences like the one with my friend’s brother, that kinda tells me enough and a lot right there to know to leave it alone and let God decide/figure out/judge what He created. Not me.

  4. mandy Says:

    Well put to all of you! When I think about he medical aspects of homosexuality, there are a number of medical conditions and happenings that support the fact that it is NOT always a choice. I have cared for several homosexuals/lesbians over the years as well as those that are gender confused and to me it is clear that it is not always a choice. I mean look at those that are born with both genders! There was a documentary once on a teen that was having a sex change. Of course her parents were devastated. But after extensive testing counseling and reviewing brain waves and chemistries the determined that she was indeed a male in all thought patterns, actions, chemistry etc. The same area lit up in her brain that do in the average male brain. After this the family agreed to let her have the sex change.
    I know a man that was sexually abused as a child by a male, and so therefore it is extremely difficult to have a physical relationship with a woman. It seems wrong to him.
    I think that homosexuality all things that are mentioned. I know some that have always had an attraction to same sex even in childhood, as John mentioned. I know others who are because of the direct result of an abusive situation, and still others who just choose to (often times this is bisexuals) There are some that are so caught up in sexual sin that they are just out for EVERYTHING, what ever serves them and their needs. I think it is this type of behavior that borders on Demonic influence.
    I fall into the category that people are people and sin is sin. PERIOD! I am called to love everyone, regardless of race or orientation.

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