I’ve been “jerminating” on homosexuality lately…
I don’t believe it’s a simple choice, as many Christians want to believe. That would make it too neat and tidy – a tight category of sin that’s easy to be against and preach against – the “Just Say No” types. No, it’s more complex than that – as most things are. Here are some thoughts (and these are by no means exhaustive or exclusive). I should also point out – especially if you’ve wandered to this blog through Google or something and don’t know me personally – that I do not claim to be an authority on anything, nor is this site connected to any specific organization. I’m just a guy with a free WordPress blog typing my thoughts and trying to figure some things out. This is kind of my public journal.
So where does it come from? Here are a few ideas.
- Genetics. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to think that some people are born with a predisposition towards homosexuality. The human genome has proven to be capable of incredible variety in terms of appearance attributes, skill sets, mental aptitude, athletic ability, environmental tolerance, and more. I think it’s at least possible that some people are born with a gay predisposition. Does that mean it will always play out that way? No. We all know the age-old argument of Nature vs Nurture and it applies here, too. A predisposition doesn’t mean it will go that way 100% of the time. It just means there might be a genetic slant that exists.
- Chemistry. I believe there is something to this thing called brain chemistry. Some people are bi-polar, and it causes them to struggle with certain behaviors. Some are clinically depressed. Some are manic. Some are schizophrenic. Each of these brain chemistry disorders causes people to exhibit certain behaviors. Why could a tendency towards homosexuality not be chemistry related? Many who practice homosexuality do not like this explanation because it suggests that there is something wrong with them that needs to be fixed. They view homosexuality as an alternate norm. I understand that – and I sympathize with that viewpoint. But I still think a chemical factor is a possibility.
- Sexualizing An Underlying Need. Broken people (as we all are under Christian teaching), and especially those who are not far along in their spiritual journey, will sometimes sexualize an underlying and legitimate need. This is what happened to me with pornography. Pornography was an activity I engaged in which attempted to meet an emotional need I had – one of nurture, security, and acceptance – let’s just call it intimacy. So I settled for counterfeit intimacy (porn) as a temporary fix for my emotional need (which I repeat – was legitimate). But my need wasn’t sexual – it was emotional. Over the years, I had learned to sexualize my emotional need. It took time, knowledge, the support of others, and emotional healing to stop my cycle of sexualization. Would this type of thing not also explain some homosexual activity?
- Sin. Plain and simple. Some people are determined to learn where the boundaries are so they can bust through them. This is a form of idolatry – “I know better than you, God.”. So they force God from the throne, determined to sit in it themselves and call their own shots.
- Demonic influence. Yes, I said it. Yes, I believe it. There are forces in this world beyond the natural. They can affect our behavior if we allow them to get a stronghold in our lives. The good news is that Jesus wants to free us from them.
Now, because I have said the above things – many of you will make assumptions about me, so I feel the need to write the following.
A word to Homosexuals: First off, I want you to know that God does not hate you. He loves everyone unconditionally – regardless of their choices. Second, I want to apologize to you for the way most Christians have mistreated you. In the Bible, it is clear that the original intention of churches were for them to be a hospital for the sick (ie: everyone), not a social club for the well (ie: superficial Christians who think there’s nothing wrong with them). Third, I want you to know that if you were sitting in a room with me, the one thing I would want you to understand is that your sin is absolutely no different from mine. Just because I go to church every week, have Christian friends, and live a mostly Christian life does not mean that I am different from you. I still sin. I have lustful thoughts sometimes. I objectify women sometimes. And although I have largely overcome my addiction to pornography, it still leaves scars – on my heart, in my marriage, in my relationships with others. The difference is – and this is key for you to understand – is that I have Jesus to go through the ups and downs of life with me. He does not remove my temptations for me. He does not snap his fingers and life is all better (as some TV evangelists teach). But he promises to never leave me or nor forsake me – He is always with me. Jesus wants to be with you in your life, too.
A word to Christians: My dear friends – you must STOP IT. Stop treating homosexual like lepers. Stop putting yourself in God’s judgement throne. Stop protesting. Stop discriminating. Stop pointing out the speck in someone else’s eye when there is a plank in yours! As Christ-followers we are told to LOVE people. To demonstrate the love of Christ to people. To be the hands and feet of Jesus to the world. To be the most awesome force for embracing and caring for hurting people the world has ever known. WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE YOU DOING? What you are doing is not love…it is not patient or kind… and it is certainly boastful and proud. I’ve got a message for you – Jesus wants you to stop it. He wants you to throw down your picket sign, fall to your knees and realign your heart with His through confession and repentance, and then to stand up and reflect God’s love and grace to others. ALL others.
If you’re interested in more of my thoughts on homosexuality, you can check out a recent post I wrote on Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.