Archive for September 2010

Vha Fha Vha vs. Pinched Whiny Nasal

September 12, 2010

I’m prejudiced against the smaller saxophones. Compared to the tenor sax, the smaller version just do not live up to the expectation. Let me show you what I mean.

Here is my friend Monty Sanders illustrating the beautiful warmth and tone of the jazz tenor sax:

Show Me Your Ways from The Brooks Brothers Quintet, Almost Live

And here is a clip of an alto sax. Now, so you don’t think I’m stacking the deck here, I’ve chosen one of the premiere alto saxophonists of our generation, playing very recently under very good recording circumstances (tv studio). Can you hear the pinched, nasal whine of this instrument? It is not at all like the “Vha Fha Vha” sexy sound of the tenor sax!

David Sanborn

Next, we have the ever popular curved soprano sax. One of the best tones and players out there is a guy named Dave Koz. His tone is not necessarily brash or harsh, but after a short time of hearing this sound, my ears feel fatigued. Do yours?

But by far the worst offender is the Kenny G “straight soprano” sound. It’s tone is an ice pick in my eardrum. I never want to hear this sound ever again.

What do you think?


Your Smokin’ Hot Wife

September 6, 2010

I’ve been noticing a trend that is on the upswing. Men who refer to their spouse online as “my smokin’ hot wife”. This is particularly popular in the Christian twitter community.

They have good intentions. They want their spouse to know that they are excited about an upcoming date night; or that they still find them attractive after years of marriage; or let’s be honest – it’s a way to flirt publicly. It’s also sometimes meant as a humorous reference to the infamous prayer by Ricky Bobby in Talladega Nights, who thanks the “Baby Jesus” for his “red-hot smokin’ wife”. I get it. It seems like harmless fun. I understand these things. I’ve been married for nearly 12 years and I can appreciate these gestures. But there’s a problem:

Your mention of your smokin’ hot wife causes me to stumble.

As a person who is in recovery for sex addiction (specifically, pornography), your statement makes me think things I shouldn’t think. Like:

  1. Is she really hot or is he just doing the obligatory husband thing?
  2. If she is hot – HOW hot is she? I wonder what she looks like?
  3. I wonder if there’s a picture of her?

See, your well intentioned tweet sends me into the world of the objectification of women.

Is it all your fault? Certainly not. I bear the responsibility of my thought life. I am responsibile for my own actions and daily make choices to feed the addiction or not. Recovery is a moment-by-moment choice.

But can you help me out a little, bro?